Being better than yesterday

I hadn’t been me lately. My excuse I kept telling myself and others had been, “life got in the way. I just don’t have the time.”

Bullshit. It was one lie after another. That lie led me down a path of garbage. Full of self-pity, self-hate, with a whiff of sadness and depression. I was unhappy with my physical self.

Professionally I had no complaints. But personally, I hated where I was sitting. Ever since my knee injury 2 yrs prior it was one failed attempt after another to get fitter. I missed my former self. I missed how I felt. I missed how I looked. I missed how I LIVED.

Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. I had an epiphany. A moment of clarity. I had been passing the blame onto everything and everybody else and not taking ownership of my laziness. Yep. Laziness… my lackluster slack-ass attitude and intention.

Ebb & Flow

I never adjusted my sails after I got knocked off my path when I snapped my knee. Once again. The surgery and rehab went fine. Standard aches, pains, and struggles for a mid-40-year-old. Just me sinking into my excuses. I got really good at ‘not my fault’ mentality.

I then read these words:

Instead of saying “I DON’T HAVE THE TIME” try saying “IT’S NOT A PRIORTIY”.

I’d read those words before. But for some reason this time they hurt.

LIKE A BULLET TO THE HEAD.

So for the past several years, I hadn’t made ME a priority. My health. My fitness. My happiness had not been a priority. Talk about getting punched in the face.

I needed to practice what I preached. Find my balance. Excel and grind in my profession… and excel and grind for ME.

Back then I told myself, “6 months. I can be a completely different person in 6 months.”

Make the choices I need to get me where I know I can be. I wanted fit. I wanted my former self. I wanted strength. I wanted (physical) power.

Ultimately, I wanted to like what I saw. I wanted to be happy with me. Being ‘fit’ was part of my happiness. 6 months into my 45th birthday I said out loud:

Fuck you 45. I’m better than this. 


I’m now 4 months into my 46th year and I’m better than I was. I’ve remained consistent. It’s not all glory and personal records, but I spend most of my days being better than yesterday.

I work on it every day. That pep-talk I had with myself (and my online social circles) changed me for the better. I had reached my breaking point. It wasn’t just about fitness. It was about my happiness, my wellness. It was about finding my balance.

That pep-talk lead to a mantra.

#FU45

#FU45 has turned into my mantra. If only to motivate me from the inside out. I’ve lived through A LOT of excuses. I still come up with half a dozen of them daily. My #FU45 hashtag is just a small reminder to get off my ass. It’s telling my former lazy self who likes to creep back into my life every now and then to FUCK OFF. FU45 is my way of not accepting mediocrity. I refuse to not get better. I intend on destroying the old me.

#FU45 is my way of saying I will not age gracefully. I will not slip and become complacent with my health. I’m going to fight. Even if I have to claw my way through. I’m fighting to be as fit as my life and my body will allow. I’m fighting every single day.

What am I fighting?

  • That I’m too tired to go workout after my 12 hours shift
  • That I can sleep in and waste the morning
  • That I can eat those damn chocolatey or peanut buttery treats whenever I’m having a bad day
  • That I can skip a workout because I’m stressed, broken or depleted
  • That I can stop packing my lunch and just buy the shitty food at work
  • That I can snack on the garbage because… why not
  • That I don’t want to work out when I’m traveling because I’m tired

I decided to try and share my thoughts, my feelings, my attitudes and my methods of ‘fighting’. At the suggestion of several fans and followers, I’ve turned it into a podcast. It’s on all the podcasting hosting networks, I hope you’ll subscribe.

Here’s to being better than yesterday, whatever ‘better’ means to you.

FU45 Podcast: https://anchor.fm/fu45

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The GRE for NP school?

Does the GRE matter? Does it have anything to do with advanced practice nursing? Why do you have to take it to enter NP school?

Here are three things I think about with any standardized exam:

1. A minimum standard for entrance.
2. Evaluate your ability to analyze (problem solve).
3. How do you perform under pressure?

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Would you recommend NP or medical school?

NP or Doctor? And why?

I offer my answer, recommendation, and reasons why I chose to become an NP.

 

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How does a nurse get over the pre-shift anxiety?

Do you get nervous before you start your shift? Or worried? Maybe some elevated stress levels?

Yep. It’s a real thing.

Here are three things I do to help reduce my anxiety before a shift:

1. Remember your why
2. Celebrate your wins – every day
3. … (gonna have to watch the video!)

P.S. The anxiety never goes away… you just get better.

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The one reason you should never take that job

I firmly believe the most challenging part of being a nurse is the job hiring process. Figuring out what is a good fit and what is not. I’ve talked about it before in a previous post:

2 simple things to finding the perfect nursing job

Friendly advice will only get you so far. Maybe it’s good ole fashion luck or just being in the right place at the right time?

I know many of the jobs that I’ve worked, I just got lucky. The timing of my hire did matter in the grander scheme of things. The opportunity and job availability just would not have been there, had I applied for the same job months prior or even years earlier. Yep, I consider myself a lucky dude.

But even with luck on my side, there is one recurring theme that is a HUGE red flag in my book when paring down your decision. Everyone should be making a Pro’s and Con’s list of a potential job. You should also make a priority list of what you can do without and what absolutely has to be present when you take the position. Both of those lists will vary depending on the job, your experience and what is going on in your life at that time.

Ten years ago the shift didn’t matter to me. I could work days, nights, weekends. These days I am unable to work nights for personal (private) reasons. So if I had to leave my current job, the next job I would be looking for would have to be a shift that is not overnight.

I think you get the point.

No matter what is on your list and no matter what you list as a priority there is still one thing that should not be the tipping point on your decision to pursue a job.

MONEY.

Never take a job because of money. Ever. Never. I mean ever.

You see, the money will never be enough. No matter what stage of the game you are playing. Whether you’re just starting this journey, or you’re clocking in year 20. The money will never be enough. Ever.
Do we work for free? Hell no. That’s not what I’m saying. We’ve all earned our place. We all want to make more. We worked hard for this education, training and time in grade. But the bills will always be there. The debt will always be there. And quite honestly, overtime comes and goes.
But if you sacrifice other areas of your happiness for a fatter paycheck, you’re going to be very disappointed eventually. I’ve taken two jobs in my career that were based on a higher pay grade. One was for a separate company, and one was with my then current employer.
Each time, the job and the money felt GREAT in my pocket initially. But after the honeymoon period was over, the money couldn’t buy my sanity back.

I was unhappy because of the drive, the co-workers, the employer policies, the lack of staffing, the lack of staff support, the lack of camaraderie, the overbearing providers, the stupid shifts, the long hours, the unsafe assignments, the lack of consistent hours, the flip-flop schedule, the negative Nancy’s and negative Nellie’s at work, the unmotivated coworkers I kept cleaning up after, the crappy benefits, the unending committees and of course the lack of respect to name a few.

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Did I miss anything?

The money will eventually run out. It always does.

Find the things that make you happy at your job and focus on those things. Make a list of must-haves and stick to that list. The must-haves will change over time based on your experience and life needs. But stick to your guns and make those must-haves a priority. Always.

You’ll thank me later.

 


 

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